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You don’t have to pretend life doesn’t hurt…

I read these words on page 32 of “Dear Mary” written by Sarah Jakes and I closed the book.No, there’s no fancy wordplay, no great deep meaning behind it. The transparency and simplicity of that statement, brought me to a place I had been before and desperately needed to tap into once again.

Sometimes life sucks.

Some days are bad, others are good, and we even have a few extraordinary ones but we cannot continue to pretend that the bad ones do not exist.

Heartache, hurt, lack and worry all plague us at some point. I am in no way condoning sulking – it’s just really annoying. What I am an advocate of is C.L.E.A.R. Take time to (CLEAR) and process. Here’s what it means:

Commit to understanding the root of what you’re feeling.

Learn yourself in a new way by exploring your reactions and feelings toward certain situations.

Earn the right in your own mind to be as forgiving to yourself as you are to others.

Assess the situation in prayer by committing your now clear feelings to Him.

Release every negative emotion and use this instance as a learning experience for future reference. (you may need to write it down)

After you’ve done all you can, which includes serious and specific prayer time.. then rest. We often misunderstand the active benefits in resting in God, it sends the message to Him that we trust Him even when life hurts and doesn’t make sense to us – we know it all works together for our good.

Wherever you are, whatever you are going through just remember you don’t have to pretend life does’t hurt! Take your time to get clear and watch God turn things around just for you! He loves you that much!

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Live a little, Love a lot, Be a blessing! 

ShaKeisha M. 

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Thanks, but no thanks…



Don’t do me any favours!

I beg of anyone that encounters me never to darken the doorway of my life by remaining out of obligation or to void hurting my feelings. All you are doing essentially is preventing those who God has purposed to be a part of my destiny from coming in. The art of letting go is a beautiful one that I have realized as important as the ministry of loving one another and remaining constant. You never have to remind someone to love you or prove your worth to anyone, when you feel you do.. it’s time to let go.

I have a few people that feel I am cold or dismissive but I am neither. I have a heart for people, one that allows me to feel empathy for those I encounter and reach out to help them however I can. It does a disservice to me and those I could potentially be a blessing to if all my efforts are then spent grabbing the hand of those pulling away. Go. It doesn’t mean I may not miss you, but I firmly believe in God’s will for my life. I am under the impression that he will not tie me to anyone that is not tied to me willingly, in love and is excited about being a part of my life.

This does not mean that I will stop praying for you or that I will ever have anything negative to say about you, I won’t. I simply realize that we are squatting on each other’s territory illegally. We are no longer growing and serving each other or we have ventured onto different paths, it’s okay.

Just remember…

Sometimes goodbye is the sweetest word you can utter. It releases hat person of their sense of obligation toward you and you from holding onto them in vain and releases you into your destiny.

Live a little, laugh a lot and be a blessing!