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Win your year by embracing these 5 facts!

I want to preface this post by letting you know, this is not your fluffy encouragement piece. I am writing to share 5 truths you will need to embrace in order to truly win your year.

Let’s get started.

1. You will fail.

One of the biggest obstacles I see in clients and have battled with myself is the fear of failure. When we allow fear to guide our decisions, we find ourselves immobilized and stuck in a cycle of recidivism. The greatest thing you can do is to understand that failure is an inevitable part of the process with any venture, but our ability to bounce back is what sets us up to win big.

The truth of moving beyond a failure is that we never start all over again. We are starting from the point of our last achievement, with the added bonus of our last experience. When it comes to failure, think of it as a stepping stone toward your next big win. The harder you play, the higher the stakes! In order to win big, you have to be okay with big risks.

2. You will never be perfect.

I know that you want to wait until you have perfected everything and overcome every flaw imaginable before you move forward but, that’ll never happen. Allow yourself the grace to evolve as you learn and trust that who you are is enough.

Perfection is not realistic, but progress is. Set measures in place to help you to soberly assess your progress in the areas that matter to you. You’ll be surprised how much you forget to celebrate when you’re busy criticizing yourself.

3. You can’t control the future.

There is no amount of planning that will ensure you are adequately prepared for everything that comes your way. And you know what? That’s okay.

Learn to trust your instincts and to prepare from a place of faith and not anxiety. Be adamant about the result but flexible with the process. For example, as you begin working on workout goals in the coming year; you’ll begin to see that you have more energy at a totally different time of day than you planned for previously. Alternatively, a change in your job or hours may require you to make some decisions you didn’t have to before.

Life is always evolving, it’s in your best interest to learn to evolve along with it and adjust your expectations according to your current reality.

4. You are your greatest asset.

Goals are great, but if you are not at your best; you cannot produce your best. Everything you create will be from the surplus or deficit of the state of your soul. How well you take care of your mind, body and soul will dictate how well you execute all the things you want to accomplish.

Learn to listen to your body and cater to its needs. Determine to know yourself well enough to assess when you need refreshing, rest or increased discipline respectively. Do what you need to do so that you can be who you were born to be. Take care of you, the world needs you at your best, water drinking, well rested, spiritually rejuvenated self.

5. Your dreams don’t matter until you work them.

Listen, as a fellow dreamer I totally get it! I live in my head and I’m always overflowing with great ideas and innovations that I want to run into with full force. Dreaming is noble but action is imperative. The key to progress is focus, discipline and a goal that sets you on fire! If you are not passionate about it and convinced that it’s a worthwhile venture, you will likely forfeit it at the first sign of opposition.

If you are likely to procrastinate and get deterred, ensure that you have accountability partners in place to keep you focused.

I hope you’ve found this post helpful! As a reward for reading until the end, I want to offer you a complimentary strategy session to help you win your year in a real way!

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Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

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Spilled milk…

Guess what ? 

Disappointment happens. None of us is exempt. However, there is a way to shift your focus that can help you bounce back a lot sooner!

We often allow disappointments to stall our progress because we view failures as an identity rather than a stepping stone. Failing doesn’t make you a failure – if that were the case, many of the greatest minds we admire would not have gotten where they are.

So, here’s the question – are you letting spilled milk spoil your appetite? Are you allowing the fact that something didn’t work to convince you that nothing will?!  Well, I’ve got good news for you – you can still win!

The disappointment you may be facing is not the end, it’s just a starting point.

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When the lights go out…

It’s nighttime, the kids are in bed; Hubby’s asleep but will probably say he was resting his eyes once he wakes up. You’re all alone, just you and Jesus.

Who are you now?

I ask myself this periodically, to see if I’m still aware of me. Lately, I recognized that I’ve simply been reacting to the world around me for some time. Instead of asking Holy Spirit what He wants me to do with my days, I’ve been fumbling around and taking him for the ride. He’s been a passenger in the relationship He should’ve been piloting.

I ask myself again, in this moment; who are you Keisha?

Are you living up to your life’s mission of changing the world one heart at a time or have you been changed by your circumstances? Have you been a thermostat or a thermometer?

If I’m being honest, I forgot to be who I am. It’s an easy thing to do when the busyness of life sets in and you’re caught up being who they need. It may not be a husband and kids for you, it may be your boss at work, ministry life or even your parents. But… whatever you’re busy doing, make time to be you.

Fulfilling your reason for being has to be your utmost priority. No amount of accomplishment outside of God’s divine purpose will suffice.

When the lights go out, who are you?

Goodnight.

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Beautiful Pains

It’s been a little over seven months since I married the love of my life. So far I have vomited profusely, cried sporadically, gained thirty pounds and countless stretchmarks. Yayy. In case you haven’t guessed it – I’m pregnant.

Let me just start by saying how this time has elapsed nothing like I thought it would, I had every intention of being a blend of Martha Stewart, Claire Huxtable and a stripper. Unfortunately, nausea and fatigue made it very difficult do be the non-stop cooking, cleaning, sex vixen of perfection I wanted to be for my husband. Instead, I had these symptoms that under any other circumstance would indicate I am dying but in pregnancy they’re described as normal and I couldn’t see anything other than all that I was now incapable of doing the way I once did. As usual, Holy Spirit slips a lesson into this season of my life and as usual; I am going to share it with you beautiful people.

Here’s how it happened:

I was in bed one day, lamenting over the pelvic pain and swollen feet I had now become accustomed to. I was scrolling aimlessly through old photos and looked at one of my 9 year old daughter, I began to think back on all that I was facing during my first pregnancy with her. Truth be told, it was a terrible time but when she came – none of it even mattered at all.

There was never a day I resented my daughter because of what I experienced during the process of having her. It was painful, but the outcome was breathtaking. Looking at her gorgeous little face brings me nothing but joy. The pain of the process never supersedes the beauty of the promise. In that moment it hit me, that I wasn’t just aching, I was creating! My body itself is being used to produce a new living person the world has never seen and doesn’t know it needs yet. I am pregnant with a promise that when all I see are symptoms, God sees the outcome! Enduring these beautiful pains, allows the earth to roar with new possibilities and endless creativity.

You may not be physically pregnant like I am, but we all possess something unseen that the world doesn’t know it needs yet. What if Einstein stopped because of the pain of failure? What if Martin Luther King Jr. stopped because it was dangerous? What if Oprah stopped because she was rejected? What if Yeshuah stopped because 39 lashes hurt too much?

You will never know how much the world needs whats in you until you endure those beautiful pains and PUSH!!!!

Until next time,

Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

 

 

If you liked this post, you’ll love my book 100 Days of Singleness !!!

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Discouraged?

Life sucks sometimes. God is amazing and His plans for us are always good but somewhere between the promise and the manifestation… life sucks for a minute.

I don’t want to live a life of obligatory service to the amazing God who has saved, delivered and loved me into being a better version of myself.

I don’t want the people depending on me to be the reason I succeed or move forward. I don’t want my passion to be fueled by the pressure of living up to anyone’s idea of what my life should look like. I want the one who gave me this life, to take it and do what He sees fit – even when I don’t understand because that’s what trusting Him means. It means I don’t get to always know how close I am to things changing, I probably won’t know how and I shouldn’t need to… but here are some truths I have to face:

  1. Sometimes, pursuing purpose is as enjoyable as watching paint dry, because somewhere along the way I forgot it’s all about God and made it about doing stuff.
  2. God’s plans, outweigh my agenda.
  3. Just because it isn’t easy, doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done.
  4. Satan is a liar, any opportunity to trick me into believing I’m nothing or that I am failing when I am in God’s will – gives him power over me he wouldn’t otherwise have.
  5. God always wins, so it kinda makes sense to leave it up to Him.

Here are some scriptures on discouragement that may help. You’re not the first, and probably won’t be the last to feel discouraged. Sometimes it feels like you’re losing when you’re doing what God asks, you feel trampled on, overlooked and forgotten but… defeat is an illusion. Serving God automatically makes you a winner. Sometimes following the call of God feels like a burden we just cannot carry, mainly because we shouldn’t be the ones carrying it. Let God do His job. Have faith, be obedient and don’t give up.

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Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

2 Corinthians 12:9

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Joshua 1:9

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

John 16:33

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

 

Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

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The purge…

I wish I didn’t have to write this. I wish I could present scars to the world instead of the open, gushing wounds that I have to offer. I wish that being someone who God has called to help people heal didn’t mean I have to feel the immense pain I encounter.

It’s as if my soul screamed for 18 year old Keisha. It’s as if she were in that room again, that room where she felt dirty and confused. She was in that room alone, alone aside from the one person who decided to soil the one treasure she had left. Driving home I screamed, in a voice I didn’t recognize and from a place I had only previously visited once. Images that I convinced myself were a figment of my imagination flashed as true as 9 years ago when it happened.

But, they didn’t know. Nobody knew. I silenced my sobs so that my pain would not offend, I muffled the sound of my anguish so that it wouldn’t bother anyone and I moved forward. I’ve been healing in layers, and the deeper it goes… the more I feel depleted. There is an indescribable anguish that I felt that day, that day I can barely remember but can never forget. Tonight God told me, they didn’t understand. He didn’t know that he had taken something I fought to keep. This body, this special part of me was all I thought I had left, it was all that made me special. Only now, it wasn’t special. It was worthless. I was worthless. Her, she didn’t know either. She didn’t know that taking him back after would be like puncturing the flesh of a cadaver. The pain wasn’t there, but the damage was.

I wanted to forgive, but what was stopping me? The truth. I didn’t feel they needed to pay, I didn’t truly hate them. It just hurt. All of it just hurt. It hurt more than I know how to process, so I screamed tonight. I screamed for 18 year old Keisha who just wanted to know why. I screamed for the hurt I suppressed so I didn’t bother anybody. I screamed because it was all I could do. I screamed because even though I told God I don’t want to feel it, I don’t want to face it – I had to.

So, no I don’t have scars to show. I have wounds because as God reminded me tonight, I just don’t have the liberty of healing in private. Whoever I wrote this for, whoever this particular truth will set free – I love you.I pray that God will bring you to the point of anguish and desperation where your pain is unbearable. It’s unbearable because He bears it for you. He doesn’t want us to hide our pain, to pretend it doesn’t hurt or to try fix ourselves. He wants us to give it to Him. Tonight I forgive them, I forgive me and I ask you Father, “forgive them for they know not what they do”.

Live a little, love a lot, forgiveness is a blessing.

 

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Letter to the single mom… 

Dear beautiful,

After having my daughter, I felt like I didn’t deserve God’s grace because of what I’d done. My virginity was this treasure I kept; it set me apart and made me special
now it was gone. I felt worthless and finished. 
The open shame of my secret sin and the public evidence of it proved to be burdensome. I was ultimately avoiding love because I didn’t deserve it!

I wasn’t different anymore, I wasn’t special. I assumed God was like man, I assumed I had to earn His love and that failing Him meant He didn’t love me anymore. I couldn’t be more wrong! 

This very open shame proved to be a very public blessing. This treasure I gave birth to, is a great part of the reason I sought restoration. 

Fornication is wrong, there’s no excuse for it or pardoning of it by any means. But, if you’re a screw up like me that needs grace, and you desire to be pure and to give God all that’s left of you – do it! You’re not too dirty, you’re not used up, those stretch marks and that C-section scar do not mean a thing to the lover of your soul. 

You don’t have to live your life punishing yourself. Let God restore you, let Him heal those broken places and give your life and the life of the blessing(s) you bore over to Him and watch Him give you beauty for your ashes! 

My journey to wholeness began with 100 Days of Singleness, you can order the book HERE!


Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing! 

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Perfect weakness (Keep going)

This morning, I began my drive to church without the energy to minister in dance or the desire. I just felt drained altogether but I decided to honor my commitment to God and do what I had to do.

My prayer on the way to church was a little something like:

“Lord I can’t do this if you don’t show up, I don’t have the energy, I don’t have the strength so I need yours”. 

My prayer was answered. God told me to just worship and I’d be fine. So I did, and I was. After ministry, a visitor came up to me and said “I loved the ministry, keep going”. 

So, to those that may have been feeling drained and weary;  I give the very same advice I received “keep going”. 

Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

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Our children are the change… 

I think it’s necessary to listen to the voices untainted by bias, prejudice and pain. Children have such a beautiful and pure understanding of humanity and all the wonders thereof. 


Let’s always let our children be heard and teach them to be responsible for what they release into the atmosphere. 

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Remind me who I am Lord!

Hey my love,

You have probably read lots of content on how to be a wife, how to be a great friend but what about how to be… you? One of the main things I learned during my 100 days of singleness journey was who I am.

It is imperative that we are able to clearly articulate and fully understand who we are in Christ before we try to find who we are supposed to marry.

Ask yourself these 3 questions:

  1. Without my job, relationship, family history or physical attributes; who am I?
  2. What is it that I am on the earth to accomplish?
  3. Who am I here to serve and how?

It’s okay if you get stuck, the journey to self discovery is a long one; asking the hard questions is the first step. Believe me, I can relate.

God has such a sense of humor, choosing me of all people to minister to the broken, lost and rejected of this generation.

Truth be told – I still have to remind myself that I am worth sticking around for, worth loving, worth cherishing.

Those moments I think back to twelve year old me waiting for my dad to show up… They remind me how desperately I needed a savior and it wasn’t my dad. I would have liked my dad to grab me and tell me how beautiful and amazing I was, it would have been great to understand that before now.

However, that’s not my reality. This scar, has become my testimony. This memory of a trampled and rejected heart drives me desperately to the presence of God and His presence makes everything okay. His gentle and sometimes urgent reminders of who I am, make my life worth living and my soul rejoice – my dad is cool but I know he can’t do that for me. It’s like, in some strange way, my father taught me that I don’t need his acceptance or his love to be great… I appreciate that.

My method used to be pretending I didn’t feel rejected at all….
which — didn’t work out very well. But God loves and accepts us in a way that overrides everything! His love is all consuming and never leaves! Whew! Do you feel that? Holy Spirit just embraced you to remind you that you’re amazing and deserve to be loved and you are loved  – Jesus thinks you’re to die for! Get it? Okay sorry for that… Here’s a consolation prize:

This song by Jason Gray reminds me when I forget, so I hope it does the same for you!

 

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